Today over lunch my colleague informed everyone that he’s planning to tie the knot this year. Bravo to another couple who decides to spend the rest of their lives together! The conversation came to a point where whether it’s wise to draw up a prenuptial agreement before marriage. I guess they have come across some friends who are divorced and are forced to fork out huge sum of their income to pay their spouse just because they earn more than their ex-spouse!. And of course they didn’t have any kind of prenuptial agreement before the marriage.

I remember an episode from SATC where Charlotte got engaged to Trey and she was forced to sign that prenup thingy. The notion of it was alarming enough for her to burst out to her girlfriends about how unromantic the whole idea was and it sort of tainted the very fundamental reason of marriage and it is no doubt a mockery of love between two people.

Does this situation where two persons meet, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after never happen anymore? How I wish things are that simple. Even the most royal marriage can be in shambles. But imagine before you get married, you have to bear in mind that you two might one day split. As cynic as I may sound, this is reality. I think the moment you read over the prenup-contract, romance fades into the background and reality takes the front row. But has anyone forgotten about the part in the vow to cherish each other and till death do us part?

As society has become more complicated these days and every individual has more or less become more self-sufficient in one way or the other. Women nowadays have achieved an acknowledgment in the eye of society to do things which their grandma would deem it shameful to womanhood in their time. Therefore women possess the ability to gather wealth and families nowadays do not only depend on men as the sole breadwinner. That’s why IMHO women should protect themselves too.

My colleagues were teasing me to find a husband who can earn more than I ..hehehe. No matter how unromantic a prenuptial agreement may sound before marriage, I guess every divorce couple would think twice before jumping into the next marriage without any prenups. If all goes well in the marriage, of course you can forget it and bring it together with you to your grave. BUT life is full of surprises, no?
What think you?

p/s: No, I’m not getting married any sooner