A few days ago, I had a good chat with one of my girlfriend. Well, I love girlie chat *smile with glee*. I love chatting with my girlfriends about guys, life, work, relationships, family and about everything. One thing that keeps popping up in the topic of our conversation is of course..about guys, what else eh. I can assure you when guys flock together, their usual direction of conversation is about the female gender. Trust me .

Okay, as I was saying, we were talking about relationship and how we’re coping and all. It’s becoming more of a trend nowadays where there are more single and independent ladies than say, 10 years ago. Then I asked about the dating scene back home. Well, she said if you’ve reached the stage around my age, it’s getting a little difficult in getting into the dating game. Don’t get me wrong here. What I was trying to say is, it’s because all the ‘premium goods’ are already taken. Hehehe..that’s how nicely she put it.

Most of the guys she met are either already attached or those that you wouldn’t want. So that’s why some ladies that I know would prefer to stay single and lead a good and satisfying life (with friends) than leading a bad couple life. I think I’d do the same too.

Sometimes I’d imagined, what if I’m still single. How would I find my Mr. Perfect? I’d want someone who’s mature in thinking and yet have a less serious side of himself. I definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone who has an ego that’s out of proportion. How high should I set my expectation now because looking back, my idea of Mr. Perfect has changed a lot since I left high school or since my last relationship.

Back then I’d prefer to be with someone who’s more mature and preferably older than me. I don’t know why but my friend questioned me why would I prefer to be with someone older? Don’t I feel restricted and tied up? My first relationship was with someone who’s 5 years my senior. A lot of times I was asked whether there’s any generation gap to be with someone so much older (well 5 yrs is not that much to me). Were there any communication problems? How did we cope with our different directions of thinking? He had his plans and I had mine. I guess being together with someone older is quite a challenge. While you want to indulge in your childishness, there’s this someone that pulled you out of it. In a way the relationship sort of zapped out my youthful effervescence.

However to cut the long story short, along came this guy here and put me back in track again. Sometimes I think we’re such a childish couple. Sometimes I realized that I never laughed this hard before. That’s when I think, maybe, we have a chance to mature and grow together eh.